You are a most blessed and fortunate person if you have or had a close friend or two. Decades into life and I’ve never had a friend. I’ve had countless short-lived casual “friend” relationships via church, school, neighborhood and/or the community. However, never have I had a close, enduring friend. The bible tells us that true friends stick closer than a brother.
Each time I hear that, I chuckle for my siblings and I have never been close. As we have aged, our ties are greater than in our younger years, but none of the three of us have the kind of bond which the bible cites.
For my entire life, I have prayed and longed for a true friend. Circumstances and life have prevented such, but I continue to seek an enduring friendship. Years ago I read an article which compared friendships to coffee. I diligently searched for the internet article, but it has long since vanished into cyber space. The author compared friendships to types of coffee: strong roast-vivacious and outgoing, often times “in your face” giving unsolicited advice, which then causes me to spew them out. Medium roast-someone whom is there for you, without the drama or intensity of the strong roast, but you know they are a constant. The mild roast-they may be there with a hug and comforting word of encouragement, but also may be the short-lived friends, for they aren’t as strong as the dark and medium roast. Nonetheless, it is beneficial to have all roasts of coffee friends during our lifetime. Each of them has a lesson to share with us.
At times, I would accept any type of coffee friend. The countless moves during my life, the loss of my marriage, family and home all caused many friends to disperse. As I have learned over the years, God most often brings us friends “for a season.” When I plead for a friend, usually God provides for that time of my life. Many of these friends I had hoped, prayed and trusted would remain long-term. That was not their plan nor Gods, so I just have to be grateful they filled an empty spot in my heart and life before they moved onto another coffee break with the person God placed them with. Proverbs 18:24 NKJ “…But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.”